Thursday, February 14th, Day 163, Gorgeous Valentine’s Day

Thursday, February 14th, Day 163, Gorgeous Valentine’s Day



Almost exactly six months since our wedding August 15, 2018, we still have this dried red-and-white-rose wedding bouquet on our dresser top.  The above photo is of me on our wedding day.  What a beautiful day that was!  I am more in love with my husband now than I was that day.  We already have been through a lot together.  Most of our adventures are documented here in this blog, starting on Day One.
Starting from yesterday, I plan to put pictures and images on this journey’s blog entries.  That will be a journey itself.  I hope you will enjoy it with me.
Goalscape again is helping me to creatively set up a morning ritual and get organized with my activities.  Today, I scored 16 points in JV Life Tracker. JV Life Tracker can help overcome procrastination.  I have used it to track hundreds of things. Joyful Vibrance:  Transform Your Body Image, Energy, and Mood! describes JV Life Tracker and what it can do for you.


Today, I have spent quality time with my husband, celebrating Valentine’s Day.
Mom called to ask about some of my things in Utah.
My best girlfriend in Utah texted a “Happy Valentine’s Day” message.
I ordered a pizza for this evening, this time with a lot of vegetables on it.
I probably should change my self-image to say, “I don’t eat pizza.”  I love it once in a while though.  Speaking of self-image, I want to write a bit more about it.  I have been thinking, “I am healed!”  I do have a few aches and pains, but they are minor compared to what I had eight years ago.  That was before I went to the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, which changed my life.  I do not believe I have had a cold or flu since I went on a cruise off the California coast in March 2015.  That was almost four years ago.  I have been very healthy, for which I am very grateful.
Most of my ills are the psychosomatic type, all in my head.  If I change my self-image, I suspect many of them will go away, permanently.  One symptom I had, nausea, was caused by low sodium.  I started allowing more sodium in my diet, and that symptom went away permanently.  This morning, I mixed regular and low sodium V8, which together had a potassium-to-sodium ratio of 1.813.  The V8 provided a lot of both sodium and potassium, enough to prevent nausea for the day.

What Would Rock My World?

What can I tell myself about myself that will change everything, get me to the next level, rock my world?  It should be true or at least potentially true.


My husband often calls me ‘gorgeous’.  I could accept that description of myself and just luxuriate in being gorgeous.
Here is what Google has to say about ‘gorgeous’:

Dictionary result for gorgeous

adjective: gorgeous
  1. beautiful; very attractive.
  2. “gorgeous colors and exquisite decoration”
good-looking, attractive, nice-looking, handsome, lovely, beautiful, pretty, as pretty as a
picture, stunning, striking, arresting, prepossessing,
winning, fetching, captivating, bewitching, beguiling,
engaging, charming, charismatic, enchanting, appealing,
delightful, irresistible;
sexy, sexually attractive, sexual, seductive, alluring, tantalizing, ravishing,
desirable, sultry, sensuous, sensual, erotic, arousing, luscious
lush, nubile;
informal fanciable, beddable, tasty, studly, hot, knockout, out of this world, easy on the eye, come-hither, come-to-bed;
informal fit, smashing;
informal cute, foxy, bootylicious;
informal on fleek;
informal spunky;
literary beauteous;
dated taking, well favored;
archaic comely, fair;
rare sightly, pulchritudinous
“a simply gorgeous man”
spectacular, splendid, superb, wonderful, grand, impressive,
awe-inspiring, awesome, astounding, astonishing,
amazing, stunning, breathtaking, stupendous, incredible;
informal sensational, out of this world, fabulous, fantastic;
literary wondrous
“a little restaurant with gorgeous views across the valley”
resplendent, magnificent, stately, imposing, sumptuous,
luxurious, elegant, opulent, dazzling, brilliant, glittering
“gorgeous uniforms of scarlet and gold”
ugly, uninteresting, drab
    • very pleasant.
    • “a short but gorgeous hot summer”
excellent, marvelous, superb, very good, first-rate, first-
class, wonderful, delightful, outstanding, exceptional,
magnificent, splendid, superlative, matchless, peerless;
informal super, great, glorious, terrific, tremendous, fantastic,
sensational, fabulous, supercalifragilisticexpialidocious,
ace, fab, A1, cool, awesome, magic, wicked, tip-top,
top-notch, out of sight, out of this world, way-out,
informal brilliant, brill, smashing;
informal bonzer;
informal spiffing, topping, top-hole, wizard
“gorgeous weather”
late 15th century (describing sumptuous clothing): from Old French gorgias ‘fine, elegant’, of unknown origin.
Does that rock my world?  Okay, so I just need to fix up a bit, and I am gorgeous, at least to my husband.  My girlfriend who helped me with my dress at my wedding said, “You have gorgeous hair!”


Is there anything else that would rock my world that I could say about myself?  My husband said yesterday that I am very ‘efficient’.  I suppose if I can care for my husband and our condo and get a blog entry out every day, that I am efficient.  I could probably compare myself to others and find inefficiencies in myself, but that is over-thinking and social comparison, which I am learning not to do.  My husband used to be a manager for the Department of Health of the state of Colorado.  He must know efficiency when he sees it, and inefficiency too.
Can I accept efficiency as a quality I have and make it part of my self-image?  If I think I am efficient, I probably am.  “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).
I could go through many qualities I have some reason to believe I have and install them one-by-one into my self-image.  I am starting to type more accurately already:  efficient because I believe I am efficient.  Wow!
Why do we fear to brush up our self-image?  Maybe we are afraid of appearing proud if we think too highly of ourselves.  I have been called prideful, but the person who did so may not have been aware of what pride truly is.  It is described in detail in Psalms 10.

Psalm 10 NIV

1 Why, Lord, do you stand far off?
Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?
2 In his arrogance the wicked man hunts down the weak,
who are caught in the schemes he devises.
3 He boasts about the cravings of his heart;
he blesses the greedy and reviles the Lord.
4 In his pride the wicked man does not seek him;
in all his thoughts there is no room for God.
5 His ways are always prosperous;
your laws are rejected by him;
he sneers at all his enemies.
6 He says to himself, “Nothing will ever shake me.”
He swears, “No one will ever do me harm.”
7 His mouth is full of lies and threats;
trouble and evil are under his tongue.
8 He lies in wait near the villages;
from ambush he murders the innocent.
His eyes watch in secret for his victims;
9    like a lion in cover he lies in wait.
He lies in wait to catch the helpless;
he catches the helpless and drags them off in his net.
10 His victims are crushed, they collapse;
they fall under his strength.
11 He says to himself, “God will never notice;
he covers his face and never sees.”
12 Arise, Lord! Lift up your hand, O God.
Do not forget the helpless.
13 Why does the wicked man revile God?
Why does he say to himself,
“He won’t call me to account”?
14 But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted;
you consider their grief and take it in hand.
The victims commit themselves to you;
you are the helper of the fatherless.
15 Break the arm of the wicked man;
call the evildoer to account for his wickedness
that would not otherwise be found out.
16 The Lord is King for ever and ever;
the nations will perish from his land.
17 You, Lord, hear the desire of the afflicted;
you encourage them, and you listen to their cry,
18 defending the fatherless and the oppressed,
so that mere earthly mortals
will never again strike terror.
Does that describe you?  Me neither.  Let go of the fear of being prideful in this.  Let us go on and think of more gorgeous qualities we have.


My husband and I are both peaceful.  We never raise our voices at each other.  My husband will not even fight verbally.  He always backs down if I try to pick a fight with him.  I have had a patient, peaceful, and gentle disposition for many years.  I rarely get angry, and if I do, I tend to hide it.  If I am miffed at someone, I try to see their point of view.  This view of myself is probably already in my self-image.  It may not be a gorgeous quality, but it is an admirable one–probably a quality I should continue to nurture and value.  I could get focussed on why I have not lost 15 pounds yet, when I am missing out on relishing this quality of peace I have.


My husband often says, “You are so careful.”  I learned from my psychology statistics course in college that on a personality test mapped in a vector space, ‘careful’ and ‘intelligent’ are almost the same vector.  My being careful is not something I would think of on my own, but my husband says it repeatedly.  Perhaps it is true.


So, if I am gorgeous, efficient, peaceful, and careful, how does that brighten my day?  I am only scratching the surface with these adjectives.  I hope this is inspiring you to think of what qualities you have that maybe you undervalue because you too may be focussed on losing 15 pounds.
So, what can I get myself to do with these new installments to my self-image?  Hopefully, they have done more than just make me feel good about myself; hopefully, they have enabled me.

An Enabling Self-Image

So far, I have not found the secret of overcoming my driving anxiety.  That would be very enabling.  I could just tell myself I do not have it, but then my symptoms would teach me otherwise.  I thought having an awesome car like my Cadillac would make a difference.  It did make driving more comfortable.  However, even with the Cadillac, I still did not drive very much.  Now I have the jeep instead.  I sold the Cadillac a few days ago.
Perhaps I can tell myself that I will overcome my driving anxiety, that I have the potential of doing so.  Maybe I can even use the Success Mechanism steps, described by Maxwell Maltz, to approach driving freedom like a target.  I must get moving to do so, because the Success Mechanism only works if you are moving.
Knowing the Success Mechanism steps is in itself enabling.


Our pizza arrived!  I ate more calories than I intended.  I did my best to guesstimate them using the literature provided by the pizza store.  The thin crust pizza, the kind we got, has the fewest calories of any of the pizza crust options.  My husband loved the pizza, and I enjoyed it also.  Since pizza can be constipating, I am taking extra magnesium glycinate tonight as well as the magnesium oxide I always take for regularity.  As usual, my fiber and potassium intakes today are a little short of 100%.  However, the pizza record I used in Cronometer does not have veggies, and we ordered a pizza with green peppers, green onions, and mushrooms, so I likely ate more potassium than Cronometer reports.
I hear snoring from the bedroom, so I think my husband found the pizza satisfying enough to put him to sleep.  Or did I do that?  We had our moments together.

Evening Prayer

Let me say a prayer of gratitude:
Dear Lord,
Valentine’s Day today has been a beautiful day.  My husband once again admired the gorgeous Valentine card I got for him.  We celebrated with pizza this evening.  We have so much, Lord.  Though I have some concerns about my husband’s health, not to mention my own, we are greatly blessed.  We live in the colorful state of Colorado, in a beautiful, well-maintained condo.
Share My Life and Give Hope
Lord, I want to share my life and give hope to others.  I have been installing information in my self-image–hoping to not only make myself feel good about myself, but to also enable myself to do the activities I need and want to do.  Lately, I have shared some of my struggles with my readers–things I am working on that are not resolved yet.  I am a work in progress.  In my 57 years on this earth, I have learned a few things.  One thing I have learned is to never stop learning.  Our Freshman Honors Colloquium professors admonished us to “learn how to learn.”  That is what I keep doing, almost 37 years after walking for my diploma.
New Possibilities?
I am grateful that I am aware that I am gorgeous, efficient, peaceful, and careful.  I do not believe I am prideful in saying this.  If I meditate on these four things, new vistas may open; new possibilities may come into my life.  What doors can I open for my readers by showing them this simple example?  They likely have qualities they rarely give themselves credit for.  Like me, they may be struggling to lose 15 pounds, and all their energy is spent on that, blinding themselves to their own beauty.
My Father Wrote ‘Servant of All’ In His Papers
Lord, help me to see what I am capable of.  The qualities of gorgeous, efficient, peaceful, and careful are just scratching the surface.  Bless my life with productivity so that I can be the servant of all.  My father wrote ‘servant of all’ in his papers.  That is who he was.  He was always willing and ready to help and serve.  I want to follow his example.  Help me to serve according to my capacity.
Give Me the Strength to Continue On
Lord, you have guided me back to Yourself.  You have reserved a place for me in your kingdom.  Help me to be worthy of the honor.  I am grateful I have had the life You have given me.  Give me the strength to continue on.  Give me love for my neighbor.  Help me to love my husband.  He has said many kind words to me lately; he is greatly helping my self-image.


In my free but valuable ebook, Joyful Vibrance:  Transform Your Body Image, Energy, and Mood! I list hundreds of possible values and reveal what my values are. Besides joy, vibrancy, wisdom, and health, I also value creativity, organization, consistency, and timeliness.  I believe I have already made strides at personifying these values.  My husband keeps saying, “You’re so healthy.”  I am glad he thinks I am.  Lately, I have experienced more joy and vibrancy as my relationship is working better and better, I am expressing myself creatively, and I am nourishing myself like a pro.
I believe I possess wisdom, or I would not share so many of my thoughts.  I have developed organization and consistency when putting these blog posts together.  My writing has gradually become more creative.  By putting images and photos on my blog posts, I can be more creative.  Now if I can just be timely.  From time to time, people have remarked to me, “Perfect timing!”  If only that was all the time!
There are hundreds of other possible values that you may personify already.  Rather than seeing where you lack, think of where you already excel.

Friday Morning

Now I know that I am gorgeous, efficient, peaceful, and careful.  What can I do with this knowledge?  My husband has been saying these things for a long time, but I may not have registered his words into my self-image.
To help me register this in my self-image, I am trying to think of a way to remember these four qualities.  GEPC, PEGC, PCEG, EGPC (efficient, gorgeous, peaceful, careful).  Maybe egg-PC (EGPC) will work.  I can just visualize an omelette (EG) on top of my computer (PC) and associate it with Valentine’s Day and these qualities.

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