Saturday, February Second, Day 151, Think About What You Want
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The afternoon is nearly gone already.
I fixed baked, wild-caught salmon with butter, rosemary, oregano, basil, sea salt, and black pepper tonight. It turned out delicious.
I was feeling a bit down earlier today. Perhaps I was getting too judgmental of my blog and trying to force things, rather than letting them flow. I read Psycho-Cybernetics this evening which popped me out of my funk. Maxwell Maltz writes about the cause of an inferiority complex. It happens when we compare ourselves to someone else’s standard or norm, instead of realizing our value as a unique individual who is like no one else, ever.
Sonya Lyurbomirsky, in the How Of Happiness, writes that one of the twelve activities that increases happiness is to avoid over-thinking and social comparison. A friend of mine tells me that a source of unhappiness in her childhood was comparing herself to her sister who was always prettier, more capable, etc. Her sister is now dead, and she still lives on. I think my friend has stopped her comparisons because she is happy now.
Think About What You Want, Not What You Do Not Want
Another tidbit from Maxwell is the need to think about what you want rather than what we do not want. If you think about what you do not want, that becomes the goal, and we inadvertently achieve it. Esther and Jerry Hicks also taught: think about what you want rather than about what you do not want as a means of making The Law of Attraction work for you, rather than against you.
So, what do I want tonight? What is one way to think about what you want? Vision Boards! I have my vision boards in Utah. I have not looked at them for awhile. For information about how I use vision boards, consult my free ebook Joyful Vibrance: Transform Your Body Image, Energy, and Mood!
I used to tap while viewing my vision board and say something about each image, dissolving the resistance to what I was saying with the tapping. Even though my wall boards are in Utah, I have my vision board images on my computer. I could look at them. I wonder how many of them I can still work on even though I got married.
There. I took a look at them. That was a good review. Some of the images I fulfilled when getting married or shortly afterwards. I will have to update those boards to fit my current situation. I used those boards for approximately three years. I accomplished a lot in those three years. Tapping may have helped. Currently, I am cautious about tapping because of the sensitivity of my eyes.
It is 9:04 PM. My husband has been asleep since dinner. He told me today I was his queen. He also rubbed my leg when the nerves in it acted up this morning, until it was okay again. He has been very loving towards me for some time now.
I am concerned about his well-being. I do not know if anything is wrong, but he sleeps a lot. He has been coughing a croupy cough, snorting, and clearing his throat. I cannot get him to brush his teeth, but I can sometimes get him to shave. His appetite is normal, for him. He insists he is okay and gets upset when I suggest he should see a doctor. So, instead I will do my best to keep him happy and enjoy him the short periods of time he is awake.
My husband just got up to use the bathroom. He does not like to go to bed until past 10:00 PM. I typically go to bed at 9:30 PM–that is I used to. I have had to modify my bedtime to go to bed later. He is currently sitting in his rocker, eating potato chips. I have tried to interest him in more nutritious food, but he likes eating potato chips.
Act As If It Is Impossible to Fail
Maxwell Maltz said you can accomplish goals by acting as if it is impossible to fail. It is probably thinking about what I do not want to be concerned about my husband’s health and especially expressing my concern to him. I should just let him work out his situation on his own and think about what I want by keeping an image in my mind of him being well far into the future.
It is now 10:01 PM. I am feeling drowsy. I already took my bedtime medication. I ate within my calorie budget today. On the average I have eaten 177 calories over budget and 28% over my carbohydrate allotment. If I can get myself to stay in budget more reliably, maybe I can actually make headway on my weight loss goal. To use Maxwell Maltz ideas, I should not make so much effort to do it right. I can think about what I want. I can just put the end result firmly in mind and effortlessly attain it in a relaxed manner through the automatic success mechanism. I can believe that it is impossible to fail.
We watched Joel Osteen this afternoon, and we will watch the Super Bowl later on. I fixed my husband a nutritious lunch of chicken breast, fresh blueberries, baked red potatoes, baked yellow onion, and almond-coconut milk.
I am feeling relaxed. Joel’s sermon was about being yourself and not trying to compete with others–right along the same lines I have been thinking. He said, “You are fully loaded.” “If you don’t have something, you don’t need it to fulfill your destiny.”