Monday, October 29th, Day Fifty-Five, Stay Together
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I am starting to feel more rested. It is already late morning, and I have not gotten ready to go to the rehab center yet.
My step-son just called with some bad news. I will not be able to stay in this retirement community. That is a bummer. He is going to help arrange a separate place for me to live. Maintaining two places is going to be expensive. However, if the place is big enough, I can move some or all of my things from Utah.
I know my husband wants to stay with me, so he may vote for a place where we can be together. However, we need a place for him that will meet his needs. Just any old apartment will not do. This is a serious matter. Let me pray about it.
My step-son and his wife have done all they can to negotiate a way for me to stay here. Their efforts have failed. Within five weeks, I will need to move to another place. What can I do to make the most of this turn of events? How will we handle the finances? Can I handle the driving back and forth? How will I be able to care for my husband? Can we communicate if he will not use his phone?
Let me first acknowledge that you are in control. You have a path for me. I just need to stay in faith.
I had a long visit with my husband today. My step-son also came. I was stressed and snacked on sugar. My husband clearly wanted to stay with me and live together. We told my step-son. He expressed some serious concerns. It is not going to be easy. I got a referral for a realtor from the cook at the rehab center, gave him a call, and requested that he call me back. I have not yet heard back.
Tonight the nurse gave me a hard time about allowing my husband to transfer himself from his wheelchair to his bed without help. I would sincerely hope that he can do that on his own by now, but they want him to stay safe.
How Am I Going to Work Things Out For Us To Stay Together?
How am I going to work things out for us to stay together? My husband is still suffering cognitive deficits, but he is doing much better than he was. I can carry out a half-decent conversation with him. He is clear about wanting to live with me and stay with me. He thinks living separately is not a marriage.
I talked to my neighbor on the phone while I was at the rehab center. She said she would pray that we would find just the right place for the two of us to stay together.
Now that I am by myself, I feel kind of let down. What am I going to do about everything? I think we can save money if we live together. The biggest challenge is getting the right kind of care for my husband. I will not be able to do everything. We still may need assisted living care. I talked to my husband about possibly staying here after all. He again said he definitely wanted to stay with me.
I would love it if everything would just fall into place. However, I am sure I need to act. I just cannot see through my path. I am lucky to know my next step. It seems like I have already been through so much stress, but I think I have only tasted stress so far. I need to stay in faith and get even closer to the Lord. If you are reading this, and this has not been resolved yet, please say a prayer for us.
Today I am seeing my doctor for the first time. I probably should drive, but I am going to take Lyft again. I am going to do all I can today to arrange for my husband and me to stay together and live together.