Day 353, Winning Perspective

Day 353, Winning Perspective

 
“Perspective and perseverance are carved by time and constructed by wisdom.” A.D. Sam
 

Friday Morning

 
Another weekend is coming up.  Thankfully, my left middle finger with eczema is feeling better and typing is easier.  My nurse practitioner prescribed an antibiotic for the infection and one pill of Diflucan to ward off a possible yeast infection.  That reduced the redness and swelling on my finger.
 

Awareness

 
Believing that God is omni-aware, what can I do to see and experience things as He does?  That may be totally beyond me.  An author I spent some time with yesterday, Philip Yancey, hiked a “fourteener” in Colorado to expand his perspective.  Seeing things from a greater height definitely helps.  Expending effort to attain a higher position helps develop stamina and probably perspective as well.
 
My husband (then my boyfriend) and I hiked a mountain in Utah in the Brighton area on October 2, 2013.  We had an awesome time together, even with strenuous activity.
 
 
I especially liked the view we had of Twin Lakes.   Does this tell me anything about God’s perspective?
 
 
Colorado offers hiking experiences too.  My husband is no longer able to hike much, which is a bummer.  However, we have our shared experiences to remember.
 

Perspective

 
But what about perspective?  Mike Robbins said his baseball coach at Stanford wrote all the reasons the team was struggling that season on a whiteboard as the players came up with them.  Then he pointed out that most of the items listed the players had no control over.  He said there were three things they did have control over–attitude, effort, and perspective.  I have heard it said that “attitude is altitude,” so perhaps attitude is related to perspective as well.  In fact, the dictionary defines perspective as “a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.”
 
Now that I am approaching the end of my 58th year, I wonder:  do I have perspective?  Or have I been wandering myopically from day to day, never really learning what is important in life?  Margaret Atwood says you need perspective, “Otherwise you live in the moment. Which is not where I want to be.”   Seeing the whole timeline is perspective.
 
One thing I have determined:  I am clear now that the purpose of Joyful Vibrance is to help you improve your mood and energy.  If you have your mood and energy in place each day, half the battle is over.
 

Gratitude Practice

 
One exercise I often do is my gratitude practice.  Feel free to copy this template for yourself and customize it for your own needs.
 

Preparing For My Day

 
5-10 things I am grateful for:
  • my new commitment to be more compassionate and respectful toward myself and let that extend to others also.
  • not gaining weight the past few days, even though I have not used Cronometer.
  • the overflowing love my husband shows me.
  • the 55 free ebooks I downloaded from Dr. Joseph Mercola for signing up for his blog.  I have a few ebooks I could use for that purpose but not 55.
  • the healing so far in my left middle finger.
 
morning comments, feelings, ideas, moods, and empowering questions:

Positive Affirmations:

  1. My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
  2. I believe I can do anything.
  3. Everything that is happening now is happening for my ultimate good.
  4. I am the architect of my life; I build the foundation and choose its contents.
  5. I forgive those who have harmed me in the past and peacefully detach from them.
  6. My ability to conquer challenges is limitless; my potential to succeed is infinite.
  7. Today, I will abandon old habits and take up new positive ones.
  8. I can achieve greatness.
  9. Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy.
  10. I love and accept myself for who I am.
 
mood and energy:
 
0-100
comments
mood:
90
feeling good
energy:
90
feeling energetic
 
accomplishments:
 
accomplishment
the reason it is important
next action(s)
1
I have posted 8 blog posts so far this month.
Improve the mood and energy of others.
Continue to post.
2
I have resolved to be more compassionate with myself.
Improve your own mood and energy!
Find good ways to do this.
3
This makes one better able to serve.
Put these values in JV Life Tracker and track your progress with them.
4
I made some mind maps offline in my Joyful Vibrance Aspirations “Little Black Book.”
Follow up with the maps.
Possibly put them in MindMeister.
5
I completed miscellaneous items in my “Little Black Book.”  Most notably, I swept the patio yesterday.
Organization
Continue progressing.
 

How Does a Gratitude Practice Shift Perspective?

 
I have basically two ways of looking at things:  through depressed eyes or through grateful eyes.  There is a manic perspective also, but that condition is a bit rarer.  When I am depressed, everything looks bleak, not just my present but my past and future also.  When I am grateful, I am not only happy about what is in front of me, but my past and future appear happy too.  Gratitude changes my perspective on everything:  past, present, and future.
 

The Right Perspective Sets You Up To Win

 
Perhaps that baseball coach was trying to shift his players’ perspective to, “We will win this!”  His comments actually did turn around their fortunes that season.  If you believe you are going to win, you have a better chance of doing so.
 
A little gem of a book I read years ago and shared with my sister who later majored in psychology is The Psychology of Winning by Denis Waitley.  Most of the book is about the relationship you have with yourself.  The information is useful even outside of competitive sports.
 

What Is The Winning Perspective For Me Right Now?

 
I think the beliefs I selected for having a popular blog are motivating and give me perspective.  I memorized them and put them on JV Life Tracker to track how often I recite them.  Let me analyze that and see how many times I have recited them so far.  Wow!  24 times.  I think the most important thing is simply not to quit.  Dr. Joseph Mercola said in How To Create More Time, p. 19,
 

Prayer

 
 
 
Morning Prayer
 
Lord,
 
Along with self-compassion, I need perspective.  Perhaps a winning perspective will help me give myself self-compassion also.
 
Lord, I love my mother.  However, she often chides herself for not doing more.  She probably accomplishes more than I do; she certainly travels a great deal more.  I suggested she do fewer things and enjoy them more, rather than trying to rush.  I am not sure whether she appreciates my perspective.
 
Mountains
What creates a winning perspective?  Climbing a mountain lifts perspective for many, so for those who can do it, I suggest the experience.
 
Other mountains to climb include getting through mountainous masses of mail and email that build up.  It feels like an accomplishment to catch up, but does that create a winning perspective?  I am not sure.  It may.  I hope my readers will respond one way or the other in comments if they have an opinion.  Leo Babauta includes getting caught up on the mail as one of his 12 success habits.
 
Any Good From Being Hard On Anyone?
 
Lord, another question in my mind is whether being hard on anyone for anything is fruitful.  That I do not really know for sure.  I am leaning toward not being hard on myself.  If I am to love others as myself and to do unto them as I would have them do unto me, perhaps it follows that I am not to be hard on others either.
 
I was raised in a kind of harsh environment.  I have wondered if that set me up for my successes or my failures.  Maybe that does
not matter as we are all responsible for our lives.
 
When my husband does something I do not like, does it do any good to be hard on him?  I am leaning on the side of being gentle.  Dr. David Burns said that wives who reward their husbands for good behavior rather than punishing them for bad are more successful in their marriages.
 
My view of God has changed in recent years.  I now believe you have already forgiven me rather than waiting until I finish mending my ways.  That kinder perspective has inspired me to be kinder to myself and others.
 
Nurture or Nature?
At this point, I believe if we had been raised with a more gentle hand that my adult life would have been better.  That is probably true for my siblings as well.  Whether that would have kept me from expressing bipolar disorder, I do not know.
 
I used to think bipolar was 100% genetic.  However, based on my more recent research, I cannot rule out the effect of the environment.  Bipolar disorder (and other diseases) are more likely to show up in adults who had traumatic childhoods.  (Evidence so far is correlation not proof of the cause.)
 
I am suggesting that a compassionate, respectful approach with children is probably more effective in the long run than severe, frequent punishment, which can be traumatic even to siblings and friends.
 
Lord, thank you for preserving me this far.  Bless me and my readers with a winning perspective.  Give us the courage to own our lives and find vibrant joy.
 
Amen.
 
If you would like to join me on this journey from the beginning, please start with Day One.
 
 
KaeLyn Morrill
 

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