Day 212, Embracing Reality

Day 212, Embracing Reality

 

Morning

 
My mass on the scales this morning was 54.90 kg, which is the lowest it has been all year.  I did not think I was going to lose any more weight, but I did.  I think what helped yesterday was lowering my net carbs, which were 62.2 grams yesterday.  My average since January 7, 2019 has been 128.3 grams.
 
Yesterday, for the first time, I made a nut bread recipe from The Dental Diet.
 

Nut Bread

 
Ingredients
3 1/4 cups
walnuts
1/4 cup
cashews
1/4 cup
pecans
1/4 cup
almonds
2 cups
organic chia seeds
5 large
large, omega-3 pasture-raised eggs  (if you can get them, otherwise just large eggs)
1/4 cup
extra virgin olive oil
1 teaspoon
sea salt
 
Directions
1.        Preheat oven to 320 degrees Fahrenheit.
2.        Chop nuts and seeds or place them in a blender, a part of them at a time, and pulse lightly.  Put in mixing bowl.
3.        Mix eggs, oil, and salt in a separate mixing bowl.  Combine with nuts and seeds.
4.        Oil a loaf pan (at least 4” X 8”) and spread batter evenly in pan
5.        Bake for 60 minutes until bread is firm.  Let it cool, then slice.
 
The bread is very calorific so go easy on it.  It is however, very low in net carbs, so it is great for reducing.  According to Dr. Steven Lin who is the dentist who wrote The Dental Diet, it is great for your oral health.
 
The featured image shows the nut bread in the loaf pan after my husband and I ate some the first day.
 

Depression

 
I recently suffered some more depression.  Thankfully, I got back out of it.  I listened to an interesting video on FMTV.com.  It was in the Food Matters TV Total Wellness Summit 2019, Day 6, about the Demartini method.  Dr. John Demartini said depression is a comparison between reality and our unrealistic delusion or fantasy that we are addicted to.  In order to cure it, we must recognize the mismatch, find a drawback in the fantasy, and see the benefit of reality.
 

Feedback Mechanism

 
I have been in counseling off and on for over thirty years, and I do not think I have ever heard it stated like this.  I did have a counselor work with me on a concept called radical acceptance which may have been based on similar ideas.  Dr. Demartini does not believe depression is a disease, he believes it is a feedback mechanism to wake us up.  He believes in embracing both sides of life, the upsides and the downsides, the north poles and the south poles.
 
So is depression really not a disease?  Is it just a feedback mechanism?  Dr. Demartini said if you really stuffed yourself and got indigestion and went to the doctor, he or she might give you an antacid or some other anti- medicine.  However, a realistic doctor would just say, you have obviously stuffed yourself and caused these symptoms, I suggest you stop.  We get symptoms because of something in our environment, which could be our nutrition or our thoughts, which we can largely control, not because our genes are acting up on us.
 

Embracing Reality

 
So if Dr. Demartini’s method is effective and assuming that it is, because he lectures around the world and sells his videos on his website, what could I gain from his concepts?  I looked at my 1999 journal yesterday and saw evidence of my fantasy world.  I was 37 years old, and I had not fully embraced reality.  Life was just something to get through in order to be with Jesus, when everything would be perfect.
 
What if our world with Jesus is exactly like this one?  What if we still have to gather our manna every day, except the Sabbath?  What if we even have to work harder than that?  I think we can assume there is something about this life that is relevant to the next.  If we do not accept and even embrace reality, we can probably never be happy.  We will experience depression over and over and over.
 

Two Sides

 
I will think on this.  There are things about reality I love; things that I hate.  But Demartinis says that both sides are together.  You cannot split them.  You cannot have the things you love without getting the things you hate as well.  So, I may as well love everything, even the things I hate.  Just the other day, I realized my depression episodes coincided with when I was ungrateful for my life.
 
I have heard it said that in heaven you can eat as much as you want and never get fat.  What if that is just a fantasy?  Maybe that is not reality now or in heaven.  Most of us imagine heaven as a one-sided world.  Everyone is always kind and never mean; giving and never taking.  What if heaven is just like it is here?  If we embrace the way things are here, we have heaven on earth.
 

Where Is It Better?

 
Scientists have been searching the Universe, but so far they have found no place as hospitable to human life as it is right here on earth.  We can imagine a place better than this one, but can it in reality exist?  If everyone is giving and no one is taking, where is the balance?
 
Stress
 
Dr. Demartini mentioned that we can have unresolved “chemical imbalances” from past stresses that are not fully resolved.  It can take time to resolve those.  Stress is caused by our perceptions and not by events themselves.  To resolve the stress, we need to change our perceptions.
 
I have had numerous stresses in my life.  Some of them have been resolved by counseling, usually with cognitive behavior techniques.  I was stressed for years over the numerous medical incidents my husband had because of his habit.  After we got married, they continued.  I cannot say I have fully resolved all of that stress, but we have had a much quieter time the past few months.  My perceptions have changed.  My relationship with my husband has grown, and I have become more accepting of him.
 

Embracing the Reality of My Husband

 
Taking Dr. Demartini’s concepts, my husband is a two-sided person.  He has great qualities and some not as great.  However, I cannot cut him in half and only take what I like.  He comes as a package.  I am beginning to embrace the whole of him–everything, even the parts I did not like for many years.  He is reality.
 

Conclusion

 
I must have thought that I could find happiness by ignoring or running away from the parts of reality I did not like.  Now I see there is a better way.  It is time to accept reality as a whole, and stop wishing I was in heaven, where I suppose all the problems will never occur.
 
There certainly is a whole lot to enjoy in our lives, if we take the time for it.  Sometimes things do not work out just like our fantasies, but if we can embrace the surprises as well, we can doubly enjoy things.
 
If you would like to join me in this journey from the beginning, please start with Day One.
 
KaeLyn Morrill
 

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